'Marriage Hell' revealed the first-ever international couple experiencing severe conflicts even before their wedding.
On the 29th, the MBC entertainment program 'Oh Eun-young Report - Marriage Hell' showcased the story of a French bride-to-be and a Korean groom-to-be, the 'preview couple'. As the first international couple in the program's history, the two expressed that their conflicts had deepened before marriage, making it uncertain whether they could guarantee a happy married life, prompting them to seek Dr. Oh Eun-young's help.
The couple met through an application and developed their relationship into a romantic one after their fourth meeting, currently preparing to register their marriage. Despite overcoming an 8-year age gap and the barrier of borders to quickly grow their love, the husband expressed his concerns about his wife's excessive spending habits. He lamented that his wife exhibited incomprehensible spending behaviors, having spent 30 million won in just three months.
In a video, the wife was seen borrowing her husband's card to go out, even when her bank balance was down to 3,000 won. She took a taxi, paid for expensive beef, and bought items at a drugstore without checking the price tags. She was also seen gifting newly purchased cosmetics to a friend.
Additionally, the wife confessed that she was still paying rent for a room she was not using because her grandfather, who runs a study room, was a "good person," and she also revealed that she had a loan debt amounting to 50 million won, which created a serious atmosphere in the studio. She stated, "Every time I spend money, dopamine bursts. I haven't made any particularly large expenditures, but before I knew it, 30 million won disappeared," expressing her own confusion.
On the other hand, the wife shared that her husband's harsh words were making her feel distressed. She tearfully expressed, "I feel like I've become trash. I think there will be a limit someday." The husband sends long messages after arguments, using sharp expressions like "If you don't have money, you must be unhappy" and "Not having money is a sin." The husband explained, "When small complaints accumulate, they explode. Instead of expressing anger directly, I organize my thoughts in writing to calm down."
Moreover, the wife has a daughter left in France. She wants to bring her daughter to Korea but is currently facing conflicts over custody issues with her ex-husband. Initially, the husband felt burdened by the child's existence, but he revealed that his feelings have changed to the point where he wants to introduce her as his daughter. However, the prospective mother-in-law's comments, such as "Lose weight" and "Have a child three years later," conveyed through the husband, hurt the wife and sparked mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts.
Additionally, the wife surprised everyone by confessing that she was diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder two years ago. She has struggled to socialize since childhood and mentioned that it still takes her several days to recover after going out. She also showed signs of hypersensitivity in daily life, such as being scared of doorbell sounds. The husband also revealed that he was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 10 and has been taking medication ever since, adding another layer of surprise.
Dr. Oh Eun-young diagnosed that the wife views spending as a key to human relationships. She analyzed that while the wife is functionally capable of speaking Korean fluently, there is a qualitative defect in her social interactions. She advised that the wife should memorize and practice understanding and comforting others like a multiplication table to make it her own.
In particular, Dr. Oh Eun-young suggested, "You shouldn't set a goal of being flexible with people. Practice consistently, ask questions if you don't understand, and some things should just be memorized," offering realistic goals and methods for overcoming challenges.
Regarding the husband, it was pointed out that he tends to set overly ambitious goals. He tends to suppress emotions that would be naturally felt by anyone, leading to an explosion of feelings at once. The analysis of the background of his messages to the wife was that he calms his anger by writing them down first.
With just a week left before their marriage registration, the 'preview couple' reflected on themselves and gained a deeper understanding of each other through Dr. Oh Eun-young's cold yet healing report. The husband stated, "I feel like I've gained answers beyond my expectations. I will put the doctor's words into action," while the wife vowed, "I will make an effort moving forward," concluding warmly.
[Kim So-yeon, Star Today Reporter]
