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Everyone knows that Shinji is not a child. She has become a solid person through a long time and countless choices to become a veteran.But why is that?The moment she revealed her fiancé, we all seemed to have made a promise to willingly become ‘nosy’ about her life. (Whether it’s out of love or dislike, it doesn’t matter) It’s scary how strong emotions can be, really.

After her marriage announcement, the public was more concerned than congratulatory. The reactions to a video featuring her fiancé, with just a few words and comments, were intense to the point of being excessive, and it escalated to the point where even a famous lawyer advised, “Be cautious about the marriage registration.” The entire nation seems to be trying to dissuade her.

But can we really consider this overflowing concern as excessive?

Shinji's fiancé, Moon Won, suddenly rose to fame as ‘Shinji’s man’ after a long period of being an unknown singer. He even claimed that he was unaware of ‘Koyote Shinji’s fame’… After the video was released, allegations about divorce, the existence of children, premarital pregnancy, infidelity, school violence, and illegal real estate brokerage emerged one after another, placing him at the center of controversy.

What’s unfortunate is that even Shinji, her partner, hasn’t been fully informed about all these facts. It’s said that sensitive yet heavy personal confessions came only after they had been dating for a while. Moreover, the belated official clarifications regarding the allegations that surfaced through community discussions and comments were inadequate, mixing partial admissions and denials.

Current lawyers have also expressed unusual opinions through social media and YouTube, urging to “stop the marriage registration.” They are concerned that this marriage might be standing on an ‘imbalance of contracts.’ This is not just an interference in private life, but a reflection of the ‘social scrutiny’ directed at Shinji as a public figure.

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Love is an emotion, but marriage is a contract, and the choices of public figures are shared to some extent with the public, a fact that cannot be completely denied.

Above all, the reason this controversy is perceived so sensitively is due to the ‘familiar narrative of collapse.’

The public has already seen similar cases multiple times. Nancy Lang and Wang Jin-jin, Nam Hyun-hee and former fencer, etc. No one was suspected at first. Everyone simply said they were “in love.”

However, the uncomfortable truths and lies that emerged later, along with the rapidly ruptured relationships, starkly illustrated how quickly one’s life can turn into a tragedy. (Aren’t they still expressing the trauma and emotional pain caused by this?)

Currently, the love story of Moon Won and Shinji seems to resemble that ‘typical narrative of collapse’ in that it is mixed with hidden pasts, somewhat romantic packaging, and unresolved suspicions. Love is free, but the public can no longer support ‘unhappiness that seems familiar.’

And it’s important to reiterate that the essence of this criticism is not distrust towards Shinji.

On the contrary, it’s the opposite. She is a beloved star who has been active since a time when she was at the peak of her career, and thus precious, and the desire for her not to collapse has manifested in the form of nosiness.

The information about Moon Won that has been disclosed so far is unrefined, and the controversy spread before any response could be made. Amidst conflicting apologies and clarifications, what remains is only ambiguous facts and an imbalanced flow of information. Within that, the worry arose, “Does Shinji really know about this situation?”

People are not opposing love itself, but are wary of ‘asymmetrical relationships with omitted facts.’ There’s a concern that if they get too immersed in the emotional sentiment that feels like ‘Romeo and Juliet,’ they might not recognize this sincerity, and the more they oppose, the more they might lose their rationality like the protagonists in a drama.

Of course, we cannot live her life for her.

However, there is a wish that a marriage filled with one-sided congratulations does not return as a story of regret and pain later on.

So, I hope these words reach her.

P.S “Love each other. But I hope that love does not make you collapse♥”

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